Good evening, JB. I'm glad you had a good Sunday with your son. Let's just call you Super Dad! cool The Belize mission trip sounds really exciting. Great things are in store for you, and I can't wait to see what all they are!

Regarding your thoughts on a R talk with your wife...most of the things you have stated as your reasons for wanting to reconcile, I'm guessing she already knows. I used to feel like I was constantly trying to make my case for my H; if I approached my reasons for wanting to save our marriage in a logical manner (down to including statistics regarding children from divorced homes and on the divorce rate for 2nd marriages, etc), surely he as a lawyer would appreciate that. Turned out that he was totally in the WAS state of mind, so it didn't matter how much sense my case made...it was lost on him (and just got on his nerves in the process).

If you feel like you are at the point where you need a R talk, then I would simply state that you love her and that you are willing to do whatever it takes to save your marriage; however, if she wants a divorce you will respect her decision and do nothing to stop it. How can she argue with that? Maybe if you do present her with that, she will give you a better idea on where she stands with pursuing a D.

It's real easy for a WAS to talk about getting a new home and getting a divorce, but when it gets down to it, those things are really expensive. With regard to the potential of switching your son's school, I'd cross that bridge when (or rather IF) you get there. No sense arguing about something that isn't happening yet.

You are truly a #1 DB'er (and all around guy) in my book, JB. I suggest you continue praying for discernment and seek advice through other threads/DB'ers, a therapist (if you have one), a male role model in your church, etc. I am confident you will make the right decision on what to say and when to say it. If you feel like what you are doing now hasn't been working for you, then maybe it's time to shake your game plan up a little bit. If so, I know you will be very thoughtful and cautious about the right way to do that.

Love, hugs and prayers...and as always, many thanks for your support on my thread.
lc4

aka lc4 : )