Thanks for dropping in and for the support. It means more than you know.
We had another amazing weekend as a family together. H spent both Friday and Saturday nights here at home. The kids thought he "fell asleep" here on Friday (he's been sick, so they figured he just felt too bad to go to his rent house), and they don't know he stayed last night (he was still here when they went to bed, but he left before they woke up). It truly is like old times when we we are all together. Obviously, we are having some intimate and emotional connection with all this time we are spending together, so it's a little harder to keep some level of detachment, but I think I'm doing a pretty good job. When he's here, great; when he's not, that is okay, too.
I had a little setback today, but I handled it well (I think). I was at the grocery store shopping for dinner and came face-to-face with his ex-OW. Wow. For those who don't know the back story, she is a very troubled woman. She has severe anger issues, takes anti-psychotic meds, has a serious drinking problem, is an emotionally (and often as she can be, physically) absent mother and in general is known for being a real witch. Additionally, she's not a very pretty person on the outside. Anyway, she has "bullied" me since their A became public knowledge (driving close behind me in the car or cutting in front of me, walking past me and saying horrible things to me or bumping into me, etc). Today was no exception. There she was, with her sunglasses on in the grocery store (she wears her sunglasses inside everywhere...why???) and with that permanent sneer on her face. I made eye contact with her and then just looked away. A store worker was showing me to the sun-dried tomatoes and asked that I follow him down a particular aisle. As I was turning my basket to follow him, she charged in front of me and then came to a dead stop, blocking me in an aisle. This is a woman from a respected family and good upbringing, in her mid-40s, college-educated...and this is how she acts! I just waited patiently until she was gone and then went about my business.
The old lc4 would have reacted by going off about it to H...what an evil witch she is, how I can't even have a peaceful trip to the grocery store because of her actions, etc. Instead, I chalked it up to her being a very sad, bitter, angry, unforgiving and unhappy woman. She has lost her very successful Dr. H (she pushed the D through, not him), who is now having a great time dating around and being an awesome dad to their kids. She has lost most of her friends, social life, beautiful home (he kept it!), as well as my H. I'd probably be bitter if I were in her shoes, too.
So, instead of getting all huffy and letting a run-in with her ruin my evening with my family, I came home, opened a bottle of my favorite wine and then enjoyed a glass while cooking for my 5 most favorite people in the world. I never even mentioned the run-in to H. It's not his fault that she acts the way she does, so what's the point in taking it out on him? When I do that, I'm just allowing her to further damage my relationship with H. She no longer has that power.
