If that is true, then call me a big fool. But, I have known people as scared as rysmom. So afraid of what might happen in any situation, they do nothing. I was that terrified myself. If things are on the up and up, then lets figure out how rysmom can protect herself without filing for a D, which every fiber in her being tells her not to do. I think her state, which does not have legal separation, has an alternative that does not include filing for D. Maybe she needs to have a talk with her H, and ask him what he intends to do, or if he plans to live this way forever. vc
