I use Virgin monthly prepaid so when I'm close to being out of money they let me know. They did tell me I could add texting to my package for $7 a month I think but I wasn't really listening cuz I didn't think we'd be going text crazy! Last night we were texting and I ended by saying I was going to go to bed now but could stay longer if she wanted me to text her some romantic poetry lol. She wrote "I write my own poetry in life thank you" Ooh, she's a fiesty little thing! Btw, it's teasing on both parts.
Yes, in teasing and sense of humour she's my match Mish! It's like dating myself...that's a frightening thought. Last Sunday we were watching TV and in the show this guy splits a tree trunk with an axe and it turns into a beautiful women lying there in a nightie. I said, not thinking "Wow, look what he got" and she says "Well, maybe you'd like to go into the backyard,cut down a tree and get yourself a pretty white woman" I replied lightning fast, "I don't need a pretty white woman, I've got a pretty brown woman". Hey, I just came from the racetrack. My kids decided to stay a Mom's for this week so I had nothing to do. I missed the first three races but when I got there I only had a few minutes to make a choice for the fourth race so I thought "what would MM choose here", made my $2 bet ...and I won $14.10! lol
Texting mana with MM tonite. She was telling me how she has to babysit the next two nights. I wrote: Me: U workaholic. If you need a babysitting assistant I'm available and I have chips! MM: that's me, me time is my bed time Me: Hey, just remember to save some time for older brother, OK? MM: Schedule is still in process lol Me: Well, save a good day for me cuz we're family MM: I will definitely remember to do that! Me: I'm gonna go and do some yoga now. Btw, it's fun texting with you. Hey, does this mean we're having a textual relationship? Wow.
Awaiting reply. Yup, unlimited texting plan, gonna need it.
In what way? When I contact her she seems pleased and carries on the interactions. We tease each other at times. If I don't call or text she calls me. I'll cool it with the flirting but o/w not sure what people mean. The texts i quoted about were interspersed with other comments too, but I just cut it down for DB reporting lol. I think we're both quite OK with daily contact. As I said, the flirting I can calm down and any remarks re: find time for me. I'm guessing that's what you and OT mean.
Well OT can speak for herself but I mean that you have asked her several times if you could see her this weekend or when you can go out again and she has clearly told you she is completely busy. That means you have to wait at least a week until she is not as busy to mention it again - otherwise you are being too persistent. It's like a kid who asks the parent for something, the parent says no then they ask the other parent or ask again.
It might be that she is just really busy (understandable with her new job, babysitting etc - heck first week after Labour Day is crazy/busy for most people). Or it might mean that she is happy to have a Phone Friend (even if it is just texting).
You are making it clear that you love the texting but that you are not content with that and want more. Even if she also wants more (which we're not sure of at this point) - you might drive her away by pushing for more. And this is why everyone is telling you to Relax and Go Easy which you acknowledge then the next post tells us different.
Don't be your own worst enemy. I remember my own first Post D R. I felt exactly as you do. It is so easy to get totally caught up in after feeling crummy and unloved for so long. But you can't make the new person your whole world or they'll forget the fun and interesting person that first caught their eye. It also helps to not tell EVERYTHING. Keep some surprises.Some info to yourself. That keeps things fresh.
Have you read Mars and Venus on a Date? I learned a lot from it and also "The Rules of Dating" which was a bit archaic to me but just the general suggestions (like waiting on replies to text/email/phone calls even if you have to sit on your hand or not being available EVERY time the other person called). We all want what we can't have. It sounds like MM could be playing by the rules and has you completely wrapped around her finger just by texting OR that she is interested in friendship or a mild flirtation and in the early days it is impossible to tell. Because she might not even know how she feels.
Thanks Barb, that helps. Yes, this is a rollercoaster ride for me, I get caught up in the new good feelings and when I sense the other person is enjoying it too...well, it's hard to contain myself! I did text her last night and just said "hope I didn't sound pushy re: time for me, I'm just teasing. I'm cool" I'll leave contact to her today. But, I do have a life outside of her and I am living it. She also knows what I do cuz we talk about our days. I go to church, meditation group, have lunch with friends, saw my Mom and hit the racetrack. Don't worry I'm not sitting at home waiting for her texts or phone calls...I like them but I'm living my life. I'll be fine. As far as male/female communication we actually did discuss that last Sunday and she said "you realize we're not just talking about male/ female communication, we're talking about you and me" I said "I'm completely aware of the fact" Anyway, I will cool my jets! I'll be OK. Thanks again.
