Thought it would be done by now...part 2

[AJM]

I am sure he will always be bitter as he is a blamer. So immature. Always knew that. Yuck.

You cannot see the future, Life. You have to look at what is and not was or could be at this point.
Mine did the same. She was angry when she saw the responses. I delayed much of it, not because I wanted her back (I did, but that's not how that works I know) but because it was necessary to wear her down. I didn't like it then, and I don't like it. But it is what it is. I deserved much more than I got after she left. In the end she took my 401k, some money, half the household goods and her car. She tried to take my self esteem and for a while that was up for grabs. I kept the house and half the house-hold goods. Know what she told me once? She told me she has no money so she needed mine. She made an ass out of herself to the point that the financial people and even her own lawyer don't like her. She made it easy for them to do right for me. That took time. I did not ask for this, just as you did not ask for it. If he has to pay his share, that's his problem to deal with. His consequence and you should NOT feel a a bit of guilt about it. You'll regret not following your lawyers advice later. I was told the same and wanted to just walk away from the house etc. A friend told me to take it for now and I could give it back later or donate it. She was right. I'm glad I stayed in the house, as hard as that has been. It's still a drain, but it's only financial and it's no worse then when she was here. In fact, it's a little easier because it's just me spending now

Keep the house if you can. Cherish the past memories when you are able and keep your head up high. He made his decisions out of emotion. Make yours rationally and let your lawyer do the work. Let him react as he sees fit. His words are worthless as it is and he will try to hurt you either this way or some other. Expect that. Expect that his words will be like those of a 4 year old - he'll say things to hurt you but they won't carry much weight once you examine them.

Consequences for his actions. He has to face them. Just like we all do..

Be at peace with your decisions.

AJ