Just food for thought - you are making decisions based on him still. You are assuming it is his way or nothing. He's a different person than you knew.
That is irrelevant in the scheme of things since you would have to let somebody in, even if it was H. I agree his actions and his words don't line up. From my perspective, that's not unexpected in the sense that he went in over time and coming out requires time as well. Not that it's acceptable.
As for your choices, while you should make some, you don't have to make them all at once and you do not have a time limit. You have to decide what is right for you and nothing more than that. You don't have to look at what might be nor what you think he might be like. I suspect that reconnecting with a MLCr is like meeting somebody new all over again, except you have some history (some good and some not so good).
Your choice is whether or not you let him into your life and how. Don't let the past intrude on your future and don't let somebody (anybody) take what you are. A good relationship would include somebody who fits into your plans and enhances your life - not somebody who takes away from it.
Bears won? Man...
D's... they do that. It's part of the fun, right? I've learned to laugh at some of it. It is funny if you step back. I can remember a time with my D that she was throwing a fit and I laughed. Made her madder, but it was really funny. She stomped her foot and crossed her arms. I looked her in the eye and told her to do it right or don't do it. She was understandably surprised. I showed her. Stomp your foot, roll your eyes, and then cross your arms. If you can't do that, then don't bring it
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
