I'm Still Here Pt Deux

[Endeavour]

It doesn't sound like he knows what he's doing, DG.

But he also doesn't sound done. Just stuck. And confused.

You're doing well though and maybe, just maybe he's finally starting to notice that you are NOT just where he left you.

Hang in there.

[~¤DG¤~]

QOS you bring a very interesting interpretation. I think I may agree with you.

Endeavor-he does sound stuck, and of course that makes me feel bad because I love him and don't like to see him hurting.

I am doing pretty well. Like I said this weekend was a lot of fun.

[jbnati]

DG, I'm glad you had an amazing weekend.

At the risk of mind-reading:
Hard to tell what's that's about with your H. Is it possible he wanted to reach out to you but was afraid is was going to anger you? I'm also thinking right now about LP's situation. His W was ticked because he went dark on her.

[~¤DG¤~]

I guess it just hurts my feelings when he says nice things to me and then re tracts them almost immediately.

[LearningPatience]

DG, remember that in life, much like kids games, no take backs

jb, thanks for remembering part of my sitch. To this day, I couldn't give you the exact reason my going dark angered my W so much. Don't know if it was the method, the reason, guilt, loss or the phase of the moon. All I know is that she hurts, whether it be due to my actions or not. I may have a little more to say on my thread soon, interesting day...

Back to you DG, I liked your response!

[Valeska19]

So glad you are having a good weekend. You've been through some pretty rough times lately.

I don't know what your husband is thinking. Confusion, fear, and probably pain all come to mind.

Just out of curiosity.. what was the intent of your text response? You said you are hurt by him saying nice things and then retracts them immediately. Do you think your response was a reaction of that hurt? Were you trying to set a boundary?

Again just askin..

[~¤DG¤~]

Just out of curiosity.. what was the intent of your text response? You said you are hurt by him saying nice things and then retracts them immediately. Do you think your response was a reaction of that hurt? Were you trying to set a boundary?

Yes, I think so. It was more of a why are you giving me a compliment and then taking it back for? What is the point of that?

Only 2 people asked me where H was the entire night, and I was glad. It hurt when one woman said "You guys were perfect for one another!"

I just smiled and said "stuff happens. I'm good." And she dropped it.

I saw people I haven't seen in 10+ years. Some of them I didn't even recognize! I got a lot of compliments on how I looked, and I actually felt beautiful.

It felt good to go out, be with no date, and still have a blast.

This has been a very, very hard year but probably the best summer of my life.

[Endeavour]

DG, maybe he was doing a temp check -- to see if you were still waiting for him.

I wonder what his reaction would have been if you said something along the lines of, "A girl is never hurt by a nice compliment. Thanks."

I wonder if he would have wanted to continue the conversation? And if not, it still might have made him think...

He knows you are hurting.

What if he thought you really were moving on?

[~¤DG¤~]

I would think he probably does think I am really moving on.
That is what I'm doing-right?

[FaithnAK]

I would think he probably does think I am really moving on.
That is what I'm doing-right?

Yes. You can wait around and grow old or you can move forward. If he chooses to tag along, Great. If he chooses to reunite, guess what? YOU still have to focus on your happiness. Stay strong DG. It's all about YOU.