Well, I'll never claim to have an uninteresting life...
W and I met at her house for our coffee date. I teased her about not having any coffee for me; she reminded me I took the coffee maker. Touche. We sat in the back yard making very small talk until W mentioned that MC said we were supposed to talk about what we wanted. W can't handle the limbo anymore. I validated all the things she is going through (essentially MLC). I really do get where she is coming from and told her. She is impressed that I've been able to grow so much through our ordeals. Told her she'd get there too.
Without using the exact words, she does NOT want me out of her life. She wants to heal herself and I agreed with her. Told her that the way I used to be, it would have been a disaster to R and that until she's ready, it's the same for her. She agreed. One thing she said that struck me, "maybe in a year we could get married again." I had mentioned in passing the Gottman book I am reading, and W asked if she could borrow it. I guess I'll share.
We talked about a lot of other things going on in our lives. I strongly suspect she missed having these deep friendly convos based on a couple of her comments. W also seemed to miss just talking and/or doing things with me.
Asked her for my key back. She hesitated... turned out she liked the key chain, didn't care if I had the key We're supposed to arrange for me to pick things up from the house to move to my apt. Told her I didn't want to do it all at once; too much to do and she agreed. Don't know if it's better doing it by the carload, we'll see.
W went off to talk to a MF who just broke up with his fiance. I tried to go clothes shopping, but failed miserably (I'm down to 29" waist, unheard of here in MI). Parked car at home and went to sports bar to watch Lions (never thought I'd type that). Once there, I sent the following text, knowing I had nothing to lose:
Note: NOT DBing MATERIAL
M: We could always settle for being friends with benefits :-) W: :)) a little later M: If you are up to it, I'm at (sports bar). Pretty dead here. W: How are the lions doing? How long are you staying? M: Down 10-6, just ordered food, so at least to the half a little later W: still want company M: Yeah, that would be nice W: On my way
Had a couple of beers and snack and I think we talked more than watched the game. Pleasant just to hang out.
We each left after the game. Walked her to the garage and we had a big hug. Went off and took care of some errands and here I am now.
I am *convinced* that we are not done, D or not. I may be delusional, but they're my delusions and I think they're pretty good.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
We're supposed to arrange for me to pick things up from the house to move to my apt. Told her I didn't want to do it all at once; too much to do and she agreed. Don't know if it's better doing it by the carload, we'll see.
