Epilogue

[Valeska19]

The question is.. "Do you even care to continue showing that to her?"

At this point, it doesn't matter. Her decision to live with the OM has crossed every boundary I could put down. Divorce is no longer a question of "if" but "when"

What do you mean by this? You've done great work on yourself, do you intend to stop showing the new you to your w? I'm confused. I mean the changes were for you right?? so how does w moving in with OM effect any of that?

Though that sounds good, on a serious note I really going with option "a"

I agree with JB on option "a".

Think of it like a pool of water. Right now it's all muddy from the pain, her emotions, your emotions. Trying to get to the otherside is going to be difficult. It doesn't matter how good of a swimmer you are or if you have the best d@mn goggles on the planet. You just have to wait until the mud settles. You have to wait until the water clears.

Patience is a hard thing, especially when we are hurting. My w said she would send me an assets list on Monday. There is a huge part of me that wants to get it over with, there is a part of me that's hopeful that she's changed her mind. It's been a constant battle to just sit in the fact that "I don't know" and just live a day at a time. To be honest, the only reason I can is because my sitch is not in my hands, but Gods and I have surrender my own timeline for his.

You've had a rough few weeks. Again, you've only been physically separated from your w for a month. That's not that long.. it really isn't. (sorry for the small 1x2)

Slow down.. breathe.. grieve.. feel.

In the meantime, I would NOT recommend selling your w's things from the house or throwing them out (sorry Rick). If it hurts you, pack them up and get them out of site. Out of site, out of mind.

If you need to make her pick it up because that doesn't work.. just really think about if it's going to be a "relief" that her stuff is gone, or a "painful" realization.

Sometimes we can't avoid the pain.. but we can stop bringing more pain on ourselves.

Let the time and space be kind to you. I feel like you are trying to rush through things.

That is just MVHO.