Still in the marathon - did I miss a turn?

[LearningPatience]

Regarding the D:
- It is NOT the right decision for me.
- It is the wrong decision for my family.
- It is not the right moral decision.
- I am not willing to turn my back on my W or my family.
- IMO it's just not the right thing to do.
- It doesn't "feel" right
- On the spiritual level, it's not what God himself wants me to do. If I just lay down, that doesn't qualify for "Well done, good and faithful one."
- I can't argue that it's LEGALLY right - the law supports someone who want to walk away from a marriage. I can't say it's illegal, can I?

jb, I wouldn't say you need a 2x4, but we'll keep the phone number for the lumberyard handy, just in case

Most of what you have listed is variations on the same theme: D is wrong. I don't think you'll get many (if any) arguments here, but it ultimately doesn't matter. If your W wants one, she'll get one, and if you mention any of these reasons not to to her, you risk alienating her further. It's ok to say it's not what you want, but moralizing often has the opposite effect of what we want.

I think your M list shows that you've grown and understand what has happened between the two of you. Please, keep up what you are doing here. You're one of the most inspirational people here; your GAL abilities will become that of legend! I have NO doubt that you will emerge from this ordeal a stronger, better person, and I think this will show through to your S also. He's in good hands right now!