WAW in Los Angeles

[wawinla]

GB...thanks for checking in. I wish there was better news, but it's just getting "worse".

My WAW bought a skimpy, black dress at a boutique near her apt/our house. How did I learn about it? The shop is own by a friend of a friend. I didn't want to spend too much time thinking about what this meant, but I had a pretty good idea that she must be dating/seeing someone.

Yesterday was her 40th birthday. I asked her last week when she came by the house (and said she's no longer contributing financially to the house), if she wanted to celebrate, but she said she had plans. I learned through friends via Facebook that she flew to Spain and is meeting an heir to well to do Spanish family. She had met him and propositioned her when she was doing business development in her old studio job. I don't believe she really kept in touch with him...I believe she re-engaged because of the circumstances.

When I heard the news, I was sad and angry. In our last encounter, it's clear she is demonizing me and putting me in a box to justify her decision. I tried to follow DB, so I DIDN'T defend myself. But it took a ton of strength to not say a word.

Through FB, her "friends"...her new social circle she met online, they are encouraging her to have fun, one even posted that she should enjoy the "physical" adventures with her "Spanish matador".

Sigh...she is the victim and I'm the cause. I have a meeting this week with an attorney. After her comments about "I spoke to a lawyer and you won't get anything you want", I need to protect myself.

It's hard to keep in check the idea that this is a marathon when it looks like a sprint. Nevertheless, when I heard the news, I was in a horrible funk. Still in it, but not as debilitating as before.

We all have first hand experience on how this isn't a linear process...the last 10 days has definitely shown me that. Here's to a high point soon....these low points are starting to wear on me.