I highly doubt ow now wife will ever meet the mil.
She has limited contact with my xsils because she does not like them too much. She perfers her sons visiting alone or with her grandkids. She tolerates the sils. MIL is one tough lady. She has not spoken to her own mother in over 25 years.
My MIL lives in Europe. I live in Canada with my two children and XH lives in the USA. XH moved to the US for work in 2005. He met a mexican girl 20 years younger who had a young son, and no money. H met her at a bar and took her home with him. She cheated on him numerous times, but he has forgiven her becaause he claims she has had a rough life. The ow/now wife recently got her green card. My XH lost his job January 2011 therefore does not have a visa to remain in the US. Perhaps this is why he married her. or perhaps being with her for four years, he has adapted to a new normal for him. Everyone we know has lost respect for him.
I am convinced the man is mentally ill, and there is nothing I can do. Whenever I did try to reach out he told me I am a horrible person and to move on with my life.
I am happy that your H wants to reconcile with you. I want my XH to wake up and stop being stupid. I do not believe I want mine back, but I want him to acknowledge what he did to his family.
Your H confessed that day with your gs still haunts him. I want my XH whole life with his family to haunt him, because he really had no reason to walk away.
