you mentioned that your X had lost contact with his kids from a previous marriage and yours. How is this relationship now?
both my kids have not spoken to their father at least three years. XH has been with ow since December 2007. OW is 20 years younger, and about 5 years older than son.
My XH family was very supportive of my marriage. They all knew that XH loved me very much, and that there were no problems with the marriage.
ever since I went threw with the divorce, I have distanced myself from the inlaws. they wanted me to be a doormat until XH came threw with this, which they believed, he would have pullled threw if I had not inticiated divorce. XMIL wanted her son to get back with me up until a few weeks ago when I told her he married. She did not believe me and swore her son repeatedly told her he would never marry the ow.
About 10 years ago, I was having coffee with a very dear friend of mine when her cell phone rang and was told her mother (86years old) had gotten into a car accident. I rushed with her to the hospital, where I saw an old man crying over the old lady, kissing her and telling her how much he loved her. I turn around to my friend and said "I hope my husband loves me as much as your father loves your mother when we reach their age". My friend then told me the story that over 35 years ago her father left her mother for ow. They also had a child together. The father kept telling his wife to give him some time and he will be back. He still has not returned, however he visits his wife three times a week, and sometimes on the weekend. He always goes back to his ow. Two years ago I spend christmas with her family (her husband always spends christmas with his ow). The lady now in her 90s told me she is planning on getting divorced. The reason was that if she dies, she does not want ow moving into her house. My friend is angry that her mother wasted her life waiting for her father to return.
