if she hadn't gotten pregnant, but admitted being intimate with OM then,
would that change things?
OR, is it that she said "Would have happened anyhow, but later..." that gets to you the most?
I think she's mortified and realizes that you are a better man now. And she fears she just erased any chance of a recon with you down the road.
So she's got to make the best of it and put the best spin on it.
If she were simply thrilled with this "oops" event, she'd have worded it without all the justifications and extra words.
It's filled with her way of being remorseful. (But in fairness, no woman wants to say she "regrets" a pregnancy of a child she's carrying/keeping)
Doesn't change the pain perhaps.
But there are couples we met at Retrovaille and one around here somewhere on DB,
who have reconciled and raised the child as if it came from another R/marriage and blended the child in. (And it DID come from another r...)
It can happen...
are you ruling anything in or out now?
And if your r with MIL is still good, why not call her?
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
