Could you elaborate on your response? I think I'm getting the logic of it, but I'm still not entirely sure what the bottom line is.
As to the line you quoted, I guess it does sound somewhat spiteful. Yesterday, I was in a pretty spiteful mood as to be expected. I want very much not to sound mean or petty if I have to tell her something like this, but I do want to make it clear that I am giving her the consequences of the life that she has chosen for us. I don't want her problems to be mine anymore. She forfeited my assistance in life when she took off with OM, and now I'm only just realizing what my response SHOULD have been when it first happened.
