Many condolences, my wise friend. I can only imagine what you're going through right now. Keep your chin up and hang in there. If this is really what kind of direction your W wants for her life, then I'm sure that you truly want no part of her. (Somehow, I can't help feeling that she will look back on it one day and think, "What the *bleep* was I thinkinng?!" Likely nothing at all.)