After 3 weeks of constant contact

[Willing1]

Lonely Room, I wish I had words of wisdom but I am only a month into my situation and my W has been all over the place. I thought there was another M in the deal, then I thought she just wanted to go find someone else, I ended up coming to the realization that she doesn't know what she wants and certainly has no clue as to what she is feeling or why. I do believe she wants to feel better or different or just feel anything at all. She is so numb and lost. Unfortunately, I can't help her. The best thing I can do is work on me. I am seeing a counselor and reading the Divorce Remedy book (great book-a must read for folks in our shoes). I have to work on me and try to give her space. It is not easy to really be a good friend to someone but I know it is the right thing to do no matter what she says or does or doesn't do.....I need to be a good friend to her. Thinking of my wife as sick and not bad has helped. She is depressed and confused and suffering MLC (at a minimum) and that makes her sick in my book. I wish I had words of wisdom for you but I can say that my life is not as hard as it was 30 days ago. There is a list of 37 things to do (and not do) on the forum. You may want to find that list and print it out. I did and it helped. Hang in there. MikeD