I have probably said this before but it apparently bears repeating...
My single biggest regret when h was in his MLC (and I have MANY regrets)
is the amount of time I spent on HIS STUFF...
where HE was in MLC, what HE was thinking what HE was planning what HE was feeling what HE was doing what HE was wanting what HE was needing
How HE viewed things, the past present and future...
Um, do you sense a pattern here? Instead, I could have spent that precious energy on ME and MY KIDS...
to create a life without h, that was a happy one.
I'd have gotten to my detached happy place, so much faster and so would my kids!!
...and who knows? Maybe h would have snapped out faster--
but that is sooo NOT the point.
The point is you have no control over your h now. We don't even know if this is a MLC or
simply a pattern of his that evolved and finally culminated in this break away...
We don't know. And guess what?
Even if you somehow did know, magically, exactly where he was, it would make no difference at all. There's no evidence that suggests MLCers come home more, or at least none that I know of.
ALL you control is YOU and YOUR GROWTH and LIFE NOW...
your GAL sounds great...
But I think you may need to Make the course correction, again...and so, now, BACK TO YOU!!...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
