Thank you and yes this makes sense. I was struggling with where the MLC fits into Deluca's overall message, so thanks for the clarification. There is a lot to take in and process, and for me at least, all new uncharted territory. Will put the Solo Partner on the shelf for awhile.
I don't really know where my H is in the process of the MLC. I have read about the stages, but I can't figure out from the description where he is. It also seems from what I read on the board, that it should not matter to me where he is and I should not spend my time and energy thinking about it. Please correct me if I am wrong.
Have taken some steps with my GAL. I am on day two of a new eating plan for weight loss. I am doing this with a good friend and we are holding each other accountable. Today we biked for an hour and tomorrow we head to the pool.
I am organizing a group of fun women friends for a two table euchre card game next weekend. Today am organizing a group of friends for a picnic on the beach. I do have a core group of wonderful friends around me, for which I am grateful. H does not have this support in place. He has one friend that he socializes with a little bit. I have been told to expect him to start dating. It's hard for me to picture, knowing his energy level and low tolerance for anything requiring compromise or collaboration, but time will tell. I also don't see him as having much self confidence right now.
I feel like I have a lot of confidence and strength. But I do feel sad quite a bit of the time. I miss him when he was a good partner. I don't miss him the way he is now. In fact not at all. It feels better not to be around him, because it felt like constant rejection. That is a distinct relief for me with this separation.
I look forward to my transformation in the next weeks and months ahead. I look forward to being able to post how I am different and how I have changed and how people will take notice of the new me.
