I am so glad to read this. My closest friends/family- those who known the true words and actions my XH used and displayed in the last months of our marriage used the EXACT same descriptions - sociopath and narcicisst. None of them ever really mentioned MLC - I brought that to the table as a possibility. Even my counselor described his behaviors as sociopathic and narcicisstic. Anyway - not sure it really matters.
Val - your situation brings hope to many - you sound so strong I am sure whatever path you choose - you will end up at peace. My situation is probably more like Alones. I don't think my XH will ever wake up and that's why I have no contact with him. Detachment is the only way I can assure I won't get burned. He is a sick man - period. And I need to keep my space as healthy for myself and my kids as possible. But it is a HUGE loss in my life.
Thanks again for sharing!
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time