It sounds like you are still on the right path. And maybe it wouldn't hurt to do a little probing regarding your R, but...
...there is always the chance your W would respond with something you don't want to hear. And that is the dilemma; do we avoid R talk so it does not cause us more pain and angst, or do we try to initiate it because we need to know where our spouses stand with everything? And will it just push them further away?
And...she might tell you only what she wants you to believe. That is what my W has been doing all along; feeding me what she wants me to believe so she can appear to be the hurt victim in all of this.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
