We had our first MC session today. I decided to let my wife set the stage. She opened by saying that she's tried but she's got nothing left to give to our relationship. She stated that she wants the focus of our sessions to be able to establish a good communicative relationship in order to co-parent effectively. When the MC asked what I thought, I said that I also want a good communicative relationship, but not just for the sake of the children. I stated that for my own mental health, I will not give up on our relationship. However I am done pushing for it, since that just makes things worse. It was generally an assessment, and overall went pretty well I think.
Afterward, she mentioned (again) that she was concerned that I would try to fix our relationship. My stance has been for the past few months that while I haven't given up hope completely, my expectation is to move forward with our plans to separate and eventually divorce since that's what she wants. She then said that this [censored], and this isn't what she wants, but it what she feels like needs to be done. She then grew cautious again, and reminded that she hasn't and won't change her mind, and to not read anything into her sadness over the situation.
As I said, my expectations and plans are continue to move forward as planned. I've made it know that I am still willing, but will no longer be pushing for marriage. I have to say that the past couple weeks since I've put this attitude into practice have seen our relationship go from contentious to friendly. I don't know if our MC sessions or anything will grow our R further, but I'm just taking it day by day and keeping a positive attitude.
