Do what I can but still have questions 4

[25yearsmlc]

sometimes nothing we do or say will make much difference.

At DB land it's often about what NOT to do.

He's being a jerk and it's tough to get thru that.

But you were great to thank him for going to mc.

I don't get the anger he as about your stance. What difference does it make?

you're in the USA so if he is so hell bent on the divorce, he can get one.

Does he actually want you to file? Why?

Sorry if I asked this before but it's nutty to me. And imo, it's healthy for you to expect decency and courtesy from him. Don't confuse DBing with doormat.

NOT saying you are, but be careful how you tread. He may test you and if you can CALMLY without anger

set and enforce the boundary, do so. That may mean leaving the room or house if he's rude, ending the conversation if he's nasty, etc.

Just don't tolerate it.

And what's wrong with saying (CALMLY---I cannot over stress the importance of not raising your voice)

that you don't want to be treated or talked to that way?

I'm just asking.

Definitely Reward yourself for stepping up to the plate and confusing him!