I'm a relative newbie, as my XH has only been in the tunnel now for 2 years. I was thinking of this just the other night. The signs I chose to ignore in the Fall of 2009, and thought, OMG! Its been 2 years. Although we have only been D a short time, and he has remarried the OW, I have to say that I feel very good about my life as it is now. Much more peaceful. R with children more relaxed. Enjoy grands even more than before. I think my feeling out of sorts is residual hurt for the betrayal in the first place. He is still unable to take responsibility for any fault whatsoever. It was ALL me. Oh, and that drinking problem? As long as they make rum, IT'S NOT A PROBLEM.
Long story short, I AM in a better place than I was 2 years ago. Despite financial difficulties, change in status, etc., my life is better all the time. I still love the old H I married, but, for the time being, he is gone bye-bye, and I can live with that.
