When I read your name under that headline, I was surprised, shocked, horrified - words don't even begin.
You and me both. Even my bf said she would have never thought H would be the type to have an affair. He's around all the time and in constant contact with me. BUT there's not much comfort in the fact he only saw ow a couple times a month.
Originally Posted By: Psych77
I guess after thinking about it, I can imagine how he could have done this - having been so immature, unable to curb his own anger and look beyond the present moment, I can picture him making a childish decision about very adult actions. And because I always thought he was so much like me, I am all the more furious at him. Well, you understand.
Yes, I do understand but I know you would ever make that choice because you're more self-aware then my H. Although, he seems to be working on it. I've actually never heard him speak with such awareness before this incident. Well, at least not in years anyway...
Originally Posted By: Psych77
I am so sorry that he did this to you, and to your children. I wish I could take you out for a cup of coffe just to get away from all this for a while, and listen supportively for a while, let you just process it. I think you deserve a good friend who can devote their full attention to your feelings right now, and just be there for you. I hope you have one. One who won't advise you one way or the other, but just understand.
Thanks, Psych. (()) I appreciate the thought. Bit of a plane ride for both of us though.
Originally Posted By: Psych77
As for your H...well, I know what it's like to open your eyes and realize that you've been an immature PUTZ and hurt all the people that you love.
Pysch, this is exactly what my H called himself during one of our talks yesterday -- an immature PUTZ! Wow, you really do understand him.
Originally Posted By: Psych77
Only my support and prayers. We are all here for you. ((((()))))
