TG, I might be thinking of someone else or just getting things mixed up, but if I remember correctly, you are near the same weight as when you and H got together. Maybe a little heavier. In any case, you are acceptable as YOU, whatever your body might be. One other thing, when our partners are unfaithful, it doesn't matter the reason, as THEY made the choice to cheat. None of this 'they can't be faithful', that's BS! Their choice...
I know as a guy I might not understand the whole body dynamic that women go through, but it still pisses me off as it is so unrealistic. My W is 5'1" and 120-125 pounds. Personally, I think she has a great body (not perfect, but I like it), but she would go on how big she is and had low self esteem because of that. That was one of the things that bothered me most was her incessant complaining about how big she thought she was. Please.
One of the sexiest people I've known was a bit on the heavy side. However, she just oozed charm and sexiness and if the opportunity ever came up to be with her, well...
I still want to kick your H, but I also hope that you realize just how awesome you are just as yourself! Do NOT give him the power to make you feel bad about yourself or take the blame for his poor choices.
((TG))
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
