I will tell him tonight that I am finishing the divorce.
I often said this to myself. I especially did it when I had someone else in my life. It was easier that way. I am not saying that you are wrong. Nope. If this is how you feel then hey go be freaking happy. A couple of other observations….and let’s be very open and honest here…you know who the OP was for me.
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LET ME MAKE ONE THING PERFECTLY CLEAR!
The CAPS, remind me of what I did. I defended her. I believe it in every part of my being. I loved HER. Actually, to be honest with you I still do, but in a very different way. So when I read your last post it spoke to me. Man…I can still remember the way I felt.
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I am not doing this BECAUSE OF THE OP!
I said the same thing…..Oh….how she made me feel. How much I realized that after her, I NEVER wanted to go back with my W. I said this to myself…over…and over…and over again. I do not have to explain my next point because you know this….the emotional bond that was formed between us, is still alive today. That said, we can both look at each other and realize what it was and why it was. That said, I want you to ask yourself a question…..
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But H doesn't fit anything i want anymore.
So you have grown SO much….that H is not what you want anymore. Does not fit the bill anymore…and OP has nothing to do with it? Of this is REALLY how you feel, then okay. I said the samething TAMF...the same thing.
I will tell you a story of a women I met not too long ago….she was lovely, kind, sweet, she reminded me of my XW….in so many ways. It was love..or so I thought it was….Do you want to know why I thought it was love? Cause, she was EXACTLY like my XW used to be. She met the criteria that I had in my mind and heart. What I came to realize is that I felt this way because the wound was still fresh for me, still open. I can honestly say I struggled with being alone - F* ck sometime I still do.
Before you pull this plug. Make sure sweetie.
Ask yourself this….IF you feel that H will NEVER go back to being what HE WAS. If you feel that H will never be able to meet your needs…. Well then yes, go do what you need to do. Go live, be happy, love, have great sex…ENJOY your life TAMF. Cause……
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I deserve more
THIS ^^^^^^^^
You do deserve BETTER!
That better though is sooooo easy to feel when someone else whispers in your ear. Feels so better when the attraction is alive, kicking and screaming. Lord, I have FELT it MANY times.
In the end though……
Once that goes away, once that HIGH goes away……
You are left with YOUR choices.
I will support whatever you decide to do sweetie!
No regrets TAMF….if you can do it with NO regrets….then chit…..go sweetie in peace.
Oh….and REMEMBER THIS……..
YOU CAN ALWAYS CHANGE YOUR MIND!
ALWAYS…..
You can choose to stand today and not stand tomorrow. Love ya girl and go have a drink….it’s Friday!
Oh...before I go....when you are DONE, really DONE, you do not care or need to tell your H that you are moving forward with a D....YOU just DO IT. At least IMO,
To be honest with you.....
You want to use OP and the DIVORCE as a way to snap your H out of it. You want to use it as leverage. Wrong reason sweetie...
Do it because you are done.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
