Your D's are 2 and 7 and you expect them to call you? That's shirking responsibility. It's your responsibility to contact them, not the other way around.
Did I question your abilities as a dad? Of course not. By "manning up" I meant for you to stop being afraid of your W and just concentrate on being the dad your D's deserve. I've got two young D's of my own, so I know exactly what you're going through.
"just trying to move on without her coming in and out of my life whenever she feels like it."
From what I've read, she doesn't "come in and out" when she feels like it. You two have kids so whether you like it or not, she will always be a part of your life. You need to start getting friendly with her so that you can at the very least co-parent your kids.
Changing your phone number is like throwing a tantrum. If you don't want her to listen to your messages, then don't. But what if there was an emergency with your kids. Are you going to wait to get an email?
"If you're going to be an ass then don't respond to my posts."
Being an @$$? I don't think so. If you want to be the dad that your D's would look up to, it includes being civil with your W. It [censored], but your kids deserve to have a dad like that. Their mom may make crappy choices, but that doesn't mean you need to have your actions influenced by hers.
You've only been here a little over a month so everything is still raw. You're hurt, angry, scared, etc. I get it. Been there done that.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
