My W called me today at work. The convo was kind of a mixed bag. Overall, it was light and pleasant.
She started off by telling our S's teacher had email her about what was going on in his class. I told her I had also talked with the teacher. In summary, no really big issues right now. We got on the topic of something our S had done with one of his friends (won't get into details, it a crude boy thing) and we were both laughing pretty hard about that.
Later on in the conversation, she mentioned she is going to look at a house tomorrow. She mentioned she has been talking to a loan officer. She also mentioned that it's a little closer to where I am, but it's in a different school district. She said S could change schools if needed. This part of the convo set off some anxiety, some concern, and some anger. I think I may need to set a boundary as far as S changing schools, because I don't think that's going to solve anything. To date, I really haven't said anything - frankly, I didn't know how serious she is about it. I'm also curious where she's going to get this money to buy a house. Is she going to try to pressure me to re-fi so she can cash out on the equity? I will definitely have a boundary there. I will need to speak to an atty before I would do it, and I'd probably take all the time I can.
So far no draft D settlements yet, but then again it could in theory be any minute now. She last met with the atty 2 weeks ago to my knowledge.
Right now, I am not seeing any evidence that she's moving toward me.
I am still avoiding R talks with her. She seems to be avoiding them with me as well. A 180 may be to initiate a R talk - the only time we ever had them when we were still in the same house was when she brought up the D word.
- the only time we ever had them when we were still in the same house was when she brought up the D word.
