When I read your name under that headline, I was surprised, shocked, horrified - words don't even begin.
I guess after thinking about it, I can imagine how he could have done this - having been so immature, unable to curb his own anger and look beyond the present moment, I can picture him making a childish decision about very adult actions. And because I always thought he was so much like me, I am all the more furious at him. Well, you understand.
I am so sorry that he did this to you, and to your children. I wish I could take you out for a cup of coffe just to get away from all this for a while, and listen supportively for a while, let you just process it. I think you deserve a good friend who can devote their full attention to your feelings right now, and just be there for you. I hope you have one. One who won't advise you one way or the other, but just understand.
As for your H...well, I know what it's like to open your eyes and realize that you've been an immature PUTZ and hurt all the people that you love. To be horrified at the damage you have caused, and realize that there is no one else to blame. Thank God my immature idiocy has never taken me that far. I am almost as angry at him as I would be with myself if I had done such a thing.
You're in a tough place, and, unlike the other folks here, I have no good advice to give you. Only my support and prayers. We are all here for you. ((((()))))
Think about it...if you met a potential mate who was nothing but a bundle of needs, would YOU be attracted to them?
