He needs to contact her with you present and let her know in no uncertain terms to stop contacting your family in anyway. She needs to know that you mean BUSINESS and that her Fatal Attraction self is NOT allowed to play any part in what happens in YOUR family. Does her H know about the affair? Is he the type of person who will threaten your H? Do they live near you, or do her children go to school with yours?
Yes, he did it via text with me present. He told her that her little phone call stunt resulted in our children finding out the ugly truth and now they were devastated as well. He told her to NEVER call our home again and to never contact him again. She called again, and he screamed at her and told her to f off. She tried to speak and he said that she was the biggest mistake of his life and that she disgusted him. And that they were both disgusting for what they did and that he could never look at her face again without feeling guilt and disgust. He AGAIN told her to never call him, text him or call our home again.
She texted him immediately after he hung up to say that he was putting on a show for his W. He responded that it was no show and to leave him and his family alone. (He has only responded to her texts in my presence and he said he will continue to only respond in my presence and with my approval, regardless of my decision concerning our M. This only makes me feel marginally better).
Well surprise, surprise, she called again after that text, and he screamed at her and told her he was dead serious -- that she was out of his life for good, regardless of what happened in our M because even if I threw him out today or tomorrow, or a few weeks from now, that he was done with her forever.
She called 7 more times until we blocked her number.
Then she texted him to say she couldn't survive this...
Poor baby.
Anyway, she lives at least 30 miles away so there's no chance of running into her (I'm never in that area, nor are the kids). As for her H, she claims her husband knows she's dating other men. She also claims her husband is moving out by Christmas, but I told my H that just like he's been lying, she's probably been lying too because cheaters lie.
Originally Posted By: lc4
Also just a bit of advice, since she sounds like a pot stirrer....if she tries to forward you any communication she has had with your H (texts, emails, etc), I strongly advise that you put them away and do NOT read them. First of all, you never know what she has fabricated. She doesn't sound like she is the most sane person in the world. So don't hurt yourself anymore by participating in that game with her. However, it may be wise that anything you are given is put away for safekeeping just in case you need it in the future. Still, under no circumstances listen to or read anything she gives you.
I asked my H if there were any texts or photos between them that could hurt me and he said he's told me everything, and that he's not afraid of what she could send. He also said if I want to talk to her or need to talk to her, then pick up her call because there is nothing she can tell me that he hasn't at this point. I told him I have no desire to engage her in her overwrought drama as I think it will only fuel her obsession. I think my H is surprised that I don't want to speak to her as I'm not the least bit afraid of conflict, but I simply think it's beneath my dignity to engage this woman any further. Also, I'd probably regret giving her the opportunity to hurt me more.
Originally Posted By: lc4
E, I have so much empathy for you right now. I will say that from what I know of you (from reading your threads), you are a level-headed, loving, forgiving, kind and AMAZING woman. I can also tell that you are a top shelf mom and wife. Do your best to keep your emotions in check (trust me...I know how hard that is!) and think with your head and not your heart right now. I'm in your corner more than ever before!
Thanks so much, lc. You're a sweetheart. I feel the same way about you. ((()))
