I wish you would be taken off moderation, too! It sounds like quite a bit has happened since you last posted. So...how is your daughter doing? How have your wife's outbursts been? I hope things have settled down for all of you now that you are physically separated. Non-stop drama isn't good for anyone, least of all your daughter.
Sorry about your disappointing hearing in court. It sounds like you are moving right along with the D process though. She wrote that your wife invited you to join her and your daughter at an event. What do you think that's about? Are you going to the event? Do you want to go? It could be a good time for all of you. If you are interested in going, just decide what your boundaries are beforehand and be sure to enforce them. She doesn't have to know what they are; if she starts to cross a line you aren't comfortable with, then you can enforce. Also, remember to have no expectations of what this could mean. If you do go, just try to enjoy yourself and have a good time with your daughter. If your wife has a good time with ya'll, then that's even better. But her happiness doesn't affect yours.
The going dark (or dim) is good. It helps you detach, and that is what you need right now. In going dark, though, you need to stop looking at her FB page! Don't even let you yourself think about what she may or may not be doing. Just focus on the good time YOU are having.
I didn't realize you were a fellow Texan. What part of the great state are you in? I hope you aren't in any danger with the fires burning across the state. We have several close to our community, and the smoke has been a real issue. So sad how much has been lost. I hope ya'll are safe in your area.
