Suggested my wife who was asking for a separation see a therapist. She finally went and told the therapist that I basically stuck her on anti-depressants during her post pardum depression and acted like she was crazy. Which in fact I did do to some extent. During the time we suffered a terrible financial hardship.
Every day during that time she was enraged, screaming and yelling at me and calling me every name in the book. Truthfully, I have ignored her for a long time - probably half of our relationship...and I regret it with every fiber of my being. I have finally snapped out of it after she announced she was having an EA. I have quit drinking, done a 180 and I am back on the path.
She got back from her first day of therapy and the therapist told her she couldn't believe that I ignored her during her post pardom and the way I treated her at that time. The therapist suggested an in-house separation. It sounds the therapist is pushing towards a split rather than a reconciliation. Making matters worse, she is now going back and reinventing history - rewriting the happy times and reinterpreting my behavior - drawing patterns back to the way I have been towards friends and family.
