While there are people who live in open Ms, I don't understand it and can't imagine how it works for them. If you don't want that, then really... that's his problem... aside from psychological concerns, there's also health concerns to consider...
So your H says he wants to sleep with other women, so in order to get his way... he's withholding sex? That doesn't sound like someone who is driven or starving for sex... because if he wants to be in an open M, then he'd still be "open" to sex with you...
But... as any WAS or MLCer... there is a confusion that sets in, so trying to figure out what's going on in his mind... likely to be impossible...
Perhaps he might be open to sex therapy... there's certainly many options out there to "mix things up" enough to satisfy what ever he feels is missing...
In the mean time... NOW is the time to start DBing, making great, positive changes in yourself, that stick... and becoming a woman only a fool (your H) would leave...
Aside from sleeping with other women, what else (you mentioned there was financial issues at one point) does he "complain" about in your M...?
What kind of women do you find he is attracted to? Would their "look" or "style" work for you? Don't do something that would not work for you... that IS NOT you... just changing some things up in what you wear, your hair...
Again, those things, along with GALing, and 180s... these things that make you an even more attractive option... these things, you do FOR YOU... and if your H notices (which he will), he might become curious and once again realize why he does not want to leave you, or would be a fool to...
