I agree with jb. You may be in more 'pain' right now than him (who really knows) but *you* are working on yourself and *you* will come through this process more bloodied, bruised but stronger and more resilient! Your H, if he doesn't work on himself, will repeat the same mistakes over and over. That doesn't sound like much of a life to me.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011