Part of the reason to me that they are rare is that the LBS does so much to strengthen herself and GAL that after awhile, it really sticks, and she/he in effect "moves on". And you've said it yourself, right when you're happy, here he is coming back and "doing this" to you, and I think you feel pulled by him and also threatened by him. You're threatened that all you worked for will be taken away by him or taken away by the part of you who in the past would be taken in by words and not actions.
This is why you've gone "emotional", because your 2 selves are fighting it out, old self who wants him no matter what is going "talk to him", "engage with him", "he's saying I love you!" while new self is saying "are you crazy? look what you have gained! Be scared of this!"
I guess I am scared that I won't be able to be the person that I am today - fully. He is so dependant on me for everything, taking care of the finances the kids and now his emotional mess. I keep telling him that I can't fix his problems he has to figure out how to do that on his own. His reply? If we get back together you will still help me right?
It is so sad. He just doesn't get it. He needs help and I am not the person to fix him. He needs to be alone - but I know he won't. He will stay with her because they are both weak.
He is funny though - the one thing I have always loved about him. Last night he sent me a text (this was after my little blow up) and this is what it said - I laughed:
keep me updated on D13s volleyball game. love you. I mean hate you. I mean. oh whatever.
Anyway, I get my carpet installed today! yeah! maybe I can finally sell this beautiful money pit :-)
Happy Friday everyone - hope you all have a great weekend!!!
TAMF m:41 xh:41 T: 20 M: 15 D: 16 D: 14 Bomb dropped: 7/3/10 separated: 7/15/10 H moved in to new apt. with OW: 7/1/11 divorced: 8/26/12
