I'm so sorry you are going through this. One thing I hope you realize is how strong you are. You remind me of myself in some ways, with the anger issues and finally hitting rock bottom. And deciding to fix yourself. That takes a lot of courage, and I commend you for that. I have been seeing a therapist for the past 8 months and have made remarkable progress. It sounds like you have also. We all have set backs, they are perfectly normal.
Reading some of the stories on this board it amazes me how insensitive some WAS's can be. Your H is no exception.
Keep posting...you'll find a lot of support.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤