how much contact have you two had this past year? What did he SAY were his reasons for wanting out of the marriage?
What did YOU DO in response?
In this past year, what have you personally changed in YOURSELF?
Do you accept that your h has to believe marriage to you "from this day forward"
would be better than before,
or he won't return? You must understand that more of the same won't work. Neither will arguing to convince him that either the marriage was fine and he was happy but didn't know it'
or that he SHOULD have been happy OR that he should stay even if he's not happy.
None of those arguments work. Don't bother making them.
Also when you say things seemed to improve this past month, what did you mean?
And maybe you are right and things were improving, but he had made plans to transfer already... and now you are confusing him with good company and pleasant talks (I assume)
...keep doing that & build good memories...give him something to miss if he goes out there
b/c he won't love all of it.
(I'm from the east coast and the weather stinks, btw.) What GAL things are YOU doing? And how about those 180s?
See my signature block. My h lived 300 miles away for a year and then 3000 miles away for a year...
We need way more info to help assess and advise.
But you are not alone. And if you take the DB approach to your whole life and really apply it to all the relationships you have
and own your stuff, and work on it and improve and grow
you will come out of this a much more contented woman. In sum, you will become a woman only a fool would leave.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
