My faith gives me the courage to move forward

[25yearsmlc]

do you think you h would have come back if you didnt file for separation? did he have ow in alaska?

H did not "come back" when I filed for a sep. I just protected our assets and would have filed for a div, probably except my L talked me out of it.

She said she had "hopes for us to recon" and she was right. Had nothing to do with filing as far as I know. In fact he was upset with ME for filing...talk about wacky thinking.

Also I have no idea if there was an OW up in Alaska. I think if there was an OW she wasn't there but would have been in training with him, b/c H was constantly asking me to join him up there.

I assume he dated sporadically (as did I ). Strangely, I don't feel threatened by that at all.


Most of the dating I did (but not all) confirmed for me that h was a good selection of h for me, (when he wasn't in MLC land.)

rys, my h's behavior dramatically changed when he went off the edge. But it was, as it turns out, only for a time, and he changed back about 90%.

HOWEVER It was after I truly let him go and moved on with my life that I saw clear movements of the type I needed. Yes I think that made a difference b/c he realized he was likely to lose me and the kids...

and I felt increasingly good about my life's prospects with or without him.

I don't see your h as changing back on his own.

And I can't see much of a downside to you filing.

IF there is a chance of your h waking up, my guess would be that it would only happen if he actually feared losing you

or if it got to be too expensive to divorce and that pressured him to return to the table to see if things could improve.