I'm extremely sorry for your pain and for the pain this causes your children. OUCH!!
I hope they can talk to someone. Doesn't have to be a big shrink-think medical deal but someone safe...btw, my oldest d was 16 when H left the house and their r is on the mend. But,
it took some huge hits...don't know how else to put it. Repairable? Well, yes. But will she think of him as uber available caring dad when she's older and looks back on this? Probably not.
I wish for your daughter what I wish for mine...
That she knows he was a hardworking man who would kill or die for his kids, but got lost awhile, and deeply wounded her. Then he found himself and his way back to her.
This past Father's Day my d22 (then 16) wrote that she was ready to let him "back into her heart"...made me and h both cry.
My h takes my d out to dinner one on one monthly, and they speak more often I think, than We do. (He calls a lot). He's trying. I don't know what he tells her about the whole ordeal although I assume it's a generic "big mistake"...(and that may be all my d wants to hear frankly.)
But their age makes this a formative time and experience.
He will have to teach her that not all men cheat. [b] He'll have to show her what redemption is.
You can show her what forgiveness means.
That could be a great legacy for your family and future generations/b]...or not.
Most of this will be up to you, but it is a process that takes time.
Nothing has to be decided today.
Oh re: OW, I think she sounds desparately unhappy and odd. Hate to say it but I nearly feel sorry for her. How miserable must a married woman be in her own life, to think it's alright to call the Wife of the man she had an affair with?
Like you two would join in the "Hate the h" club?
gee, how fun....
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
