WII: I became a parent 32 years ago and for me - it will not end. Ryan will always be dependent on me. I TOTALLY get it.
I had all my wisdom teeth out last November along with 3 molars that had cracked as the wisdom teeth had grown sideways for too long. Charming! I have also taken my 2 younger kids in to have theirs removed as well. It is best to do it once and do it right and within a day or 2 she will be right as rain. Tell her to take the pain killers as directed and keep that swelling down. Frozen peas are wonderful as they conform to the face and be sure to ice this way the first day to keep the bruising to a minimum.
I ate lots of pudding and drank milkshakes (no straw - that is bad). Josh came down 2 days later and made me Shepherd's Pie and I can still taste how good it was when I was SO hungry!
Anyway - being busy is good. Your daughters will be grown and gone before you know it.
We are going to my baby girl's apt to stay overnight this w/e. We are celebrating her birthday. She is texting me about food, bedding etc. Sounds like she has it all together. I think it is so cool! And yes - I really do miss her!
OK, I've got an issue with MM. She works five nights a week and she informed me yesterday that she would be babysitting for her roommate on her two off nights. We didn't have time to pursue this as I was dropping her at work but my first thoughts were "where do I fit into this little package?" Now, MM sees the people she lives with as her "family", they are priority and I know that. That's why when she invites me in to hang out with them I do so. Also, I don't know the terms of this job. If we're talking 3:30 to 5 or 6 it's no biggie but anything more puts this R or whatever it is in a not so nice place. Now, is this her way to ditch me? I don't think so. MM contacts me every day either by phone, FB or text. She texts me every night since she started this evening shift "just want to say goodnight". She texts me little Tagalog phrases for me to figure out for fun. Sometimes in the morning on my FB is a "Good morning!" She leaves voice mails to tell me she got home OK and wish me a good day (I was a bit freaked when she started leaving work at 5:00am and taking the bus home) Today she phoned me at work to ask how my day was, how was work, what did I have for lunch (yes, she's Asian and cares about what I eat!)and share about her day (before leaving for work she was cooking food for her roommates so when they came home tired they'd have a hot meal). She wants that connection with me. So I dunno. I think I will have to ask her more about this babysitting gig and what it means to her and I. I'm not into pre-marital text as a relationship! We'll see. Life was so much simpler just being alone with my turtle. Btw, I do contact MM too but she does the largest part.
Wii: When I first started dating Josh (and yes - it was definitely "DATING") I wanted to know where we were going. I remember mentioning this to a friend who just about slapped me. "Neither of you knows where it is going - you just have to wait and see".
We never saw each other more than once a week. Talked on the phone twice a week and emailed maybe once a day. And it worked!
I have to ask why you are driving her to work or worrying about her taking the bus. You have just started being her friend. She was independent before she met you. Stop enabling! Stop taking care of her. Or you will never know if she is just being nice because you're being nice.
My advice: back off a bit. Don't pressure. Be patient. Wait and see.
I drove her to work because she asked me to. I work 2 minutes from her house and five minutes from her workplace. She had some bulky items she wanted to bring to work so I said OK. Thanks for the advice. I'm OK most of the time but things like yesterday just put my brain into a bit of a frenzy. I don't plan to ask her to do anything this weekend, we outdid ourselves last week by a mile! She wants to do something, she can let me know. And you are so right about her being an independent woman, she's one feisty little thing, believe me!
...and she left me a voice mail once re the bus thing, voice mail(s) was a typo. I never asked her to phone. I only mentioned that it's dark out at 5:00 am and she's a woman alone. I guess she decided to let me know. But, I do get your point!
I was afraid my reply was a little harsh. Never meant it to be.
Just try to keep your emotions in check.
Yes - this R is hard to figure out. Is friendship ok with you? If not - would you end the R if it is not going to go further?
There are no guarantees in life. Don't get too hung up on this one - try to relax and just enjoy it.
My daughter, Ashley, used to hang on every text from her BF of a year ago. It drove the rest of us nuts. She was on an emotional roller coaster. It was not Andrew's (BF) fault at all. He had no idea that his failure to text "good night" caused her to not sleep at all. Sad but true.
Ash and BF broke up exactly a year ago but remained friends. She has been dating Kyle since then. I actually liked Andrew better but Kyle is better for Ash because there is no drama. She doesn't get so freaked out over all the "little stuff".
Today she mentioned that she and Kyle might be on the rocks. I won't even be surprised if she goes back with Andrew. But I am betting it will be a new and better R. Because she survived without him. And she knows it.
Barb,it was a little harsh but I'm used to it lol. The problem I have is that I'm the guy and I'm supposed to lead this somehow. She obviously provides me access and I'm supposed to act on it but I don't know what is too much or what is not enough. Am I being too attentive or not enough. How much space do I give her especially when I really like talking, texting, FBing and just plain being with her. It's all a big freakin' mystery to me and everybody says "relax". Btw, I never doubted that MM contacts me because she likes ME...now you're saying maybe she's just being nice!!!Thanks a lot, I'll add that to my worry chest now lol. Gotta go, MM and I are trading Tagalog texts, I'm using a crappy online translator. I'm at a real disadvantage here!
Btw Barb, I am enjoying it. She makes me smile! Oops, text just came in, she says "I love to make you laugh" I'm switching to English I'm Tagaloged out.
If you're enjoying it - that's great! But you do sound confused and I was just saying - you don't know what it is or where it's going. That's all. But that's no reason not to enjoy it. It's just that no one can tell you if it's enough for you or not - only you. But I think it's enough for now. And then you see what happens next. And if you don't see her this w/e. Oh well. But if a couple of weeks go by - then that's a problem. But only time will tell.
