At this point I don't know that you, or anyone else, can separate the two.
Your anger, pride, ego whatever you want to call it wishes it was over now but I assure you any rush to a decision by either party will end badly for the both of you.
We all want to rush the finale but unfortunately we can't.
I hear the limbo described a lot and it is often attached to the word hope but after thinking about this over and over I am not entirely sure I see the two as connected.
Hope is a funny word we use, and we use it to describe many things.
1. An excuse to hold on
2. An excuse to be miserable
3. An excuse to wait
4. An excuse to look at the phone a thousand times a day
An excuse for just about anything.; Hope is not the feeling that keeps you from moving forward but rather it should be the driving force that catapults you in the direction of healing.
We tie our current frame of mind to how much hope we have in any given moment, when we have hope we feel strong and we have the outlook that we can save this thing.
When we don't we feel fragile, weak, and depressed.
I have a lot of hopes in my life
I hope to one day win the lottery
Do I weep whenever someone else does?
Do my plans revolve around winning?
Does it affect my day to day activities?
No to all of the above....
I simply play, hope to win but my attitude or demeanor does not change one bit.
In reality this is no different although I understand it is a simplistic approach, the principle is the same.
Having hope does not mean you stop living or keep your life on neutral waiting for someone to tell you it is ok to drive or waiting for that light to turn green.
You can have hope as you acknowledge your reality.
Now of course, nobody likes admitting that they’re fat, that they’re broke, that they’ve chosen the wrong career or that their marriage is falling apart. But admitting such truths is an absolute necessity if you want to grow and improve. It might feel like you’re taking a few steps backward by doing so, but you can view that retreat as the pull-back on a sling shot: you’re just setting yourself up to make significant progress down the road.
Keep the hope but do not use it as a crutch to keep from moving forward.
2step
very nice ^^^
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