OW called our house

[AloneAt35]

Endeavor,

I am praying for you and your family right now. Listen to your son. Breathe and breathe some more.

As much as it hurts. The more OW acts out, and the less you can take the bait, the better off you will be. Let her anger bounce off of you. Do not react with the anger you are justified in feeling. Do not defend yourself. She is going to say horrible things. Do not respond to it in any way. You have to be stronger than you've ever been. You can do it. You have years of practice.

You must be the calm in the storm for your children. My Mother had numerous affairs before abandoning our family. One scorned OM called and stalked our home for months - often in a raging drunk. There were sometimes hundreds of calls in a day - in a day before caller ID or call blocking. My dad somehow managed to lessen the impact on us by not reacting. As an adult, I marvel at how he managed to stay disconnected and keep on keeping on despite what was happening.

Though what my Dad did was good, I think what would have helped even more was if he explained in an age-appropriate way what had happened: "Your mother did a very bad thing and now we are all suffering the consequences. The police will protect us if it comes to that. If you encounter OM, this is how you will handle it..."