E, I never would have found what your H did acceptable but given my current emotional wringer, I am wanting to come 'share my thoughts' with your H. I am so sad for you and so angry at him. No one deserves to go through a situation like you and the children are going through right now. These deals stink! If you add in another person and impact children, these deals stink X100. I do believe what the experienced members say on this forum and I try to act in a way that would make them proud of me. I figure if I can face a tough situation, act in a way that they would act, and then live to post and share my experience, that I really will be ok. I know I am still capable of acting appropriately, no matter what h/she does. Hang in there. I am praying for you. MikeD
___________ Me: 49 W: 51 Together 24 (M 17) SS31 SD 28 S 17 Bomb Dropped 8/12/2011 Still hopeful.