I had an opportunity to piece last year about this time.
Here's my thread start at P60 MAJOR DEVELOPMENT.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2062026&page=60

As you will read I was strong in the beginning when she first attempted to come back. I later made mistakes by NOT letting her SHOW me what she wanted.

A soft rejection in the beginning is necessary IMO.
Phrases like:
I'm not sure how I feel about that now
I need time to think about that

And take your time answering those questions. take days or weeks to think about them.
What's one week in the whole process?


Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12
Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life!
“Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."