I know the heartbreak, anger, devastation, etc you are feeling right now. How I wish I had the right thing to say, but I know there are just no words that can bring you comfort right now; only time will do that. I wish I were there to just be with you. I hope you have a close friend you can confide in.
JB is right. Take a deep breath. Don't make any major decisions right now. Remember that your children are watching your every move. I trust that you will make the right decision in time. There are many threads you can check out here regarding affairs, so read up on some. There are also many good books out there that can help you heal in time.
Focus right now on taking care of you and your children. Set a boundary with OW if she calls your home again. Let her know very calmly that if she continues to harass you and/or your family, that you WILL take action against her.
Just know that I'm saying a prayer for you and the kids right now. Again, I'm just so sorry; my heart is breaking for you.
