WTF! really? SHE has been through enough? Hmm, she broke up not one but two Ms. I think she is getting everything she deserves.
this is what I deal with. All he does is defend her.
Thank you for the ideas on what to say when he texts "i love you". I always remember how I felt in the beginning right after the bomb dropped and I would tell him I loved him. His reply "I know" was crushing. I hate to hurt him, but I can't lead him on either. I know I will always love my husband. but he can't keep hanging on to me as a back up plan.
I will continue to state my 3 guidelines!
On a side note...something that is interesting. With or without me in the picture thier relationship is doomed. THAT is why they are breaking up, not because he LOVES me and only me and wants to come home. Let me explain:
OW started her own little crisis at the same time my H did. I won't call it MLC as she was only 27 when it started. She had only been married for 3 years - to a great guy btw. and she found out she can't have kids. this info destroyed thier plans for what they wanted in life. All she wanted was a family. sooo as a bartender she would talk to him about her problems and he would talk to her about his. EA starts leads to PA.
Now she finds out after a surgery that she CAN have children. My H is fixed. can you see the problem? My girls think she is the devil and refuse to meet her. His family hates her, her family hates him. They are trying to be realistic by just breaking up because it is the right thing to do and the best for everyone. And I quote him "if her and I end it, the only ones who get hurt are the 2 of us, we stay together we are the only ones who are happy and we hurt everyone"
NEWS FLASH!!!
As I am typing, H sent me a text that he is ordered to go to work. and I LOVE YOU.
I reply: be careful at work. Thank you for loving me.
His reply: so that is what you are saying now?
My reply (which was too emotional): darn it H this is f-ing hard - u tell me u broke up with her yet u r still living with her. u keep telling me over and over that u love me but darn it I will not be your back up plan! don't keep hurting me I beg u.
No reply so far.
TAMF m:41 xh:41 T: 20 M: 15 D: 16 D: 14 Bomb dropped: 7/3/10 separated: 7/15/10 H moved in to new apt. with OW: 7/1/11 divorced: 8/26/12
