I asked him if I can text her and confirm that it is really over. He said, no - just leave the poor girl alone. she has been through enough. I said, can you have her text me then that it is over. He said yes he would ask her to do that.
WTF! really? SHE has been through enough? Hmm, she broke up not one but two Ms. I think she is getting everything she deserves.
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he does this to me right when I am so happy. I am living my life. I am no longer in pain.
I honestly think he needs to show you he can make it alone for awhile. His codependency on is partner is leading his life.
You gave him options on where to stay yet he goes back to OW.
You stated the 3 things you need. when he "smooth talks" you again refer back to what you stated. Tell him these 3 things are non-negotiable.
I don't envy your position right now. I was there last year about this time with my stbx.
She saw me very happy, she commented on the changes I made, and she KNEW she was losing me. She was right on all three accounts.
My mistake was taking her back to easily and I didn't have a road back to recovery.
Piecing is so difficult.
All I can say is he needs to SHOW you he can be trusted again.Trust does not come overnight, it comes with consistent actions everyday. It will also require huge sacrifices on his part. Can/will he do it? only times knows.
Take one day at a time. When he texts you with I love yous, say thanks.
When he asks why you don't say it in return say: "I don't know how I feel about you right now"
Take one day at a time.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
