Ctflor - first I just want to say how sorry I am that this is happening to you. I remember that ledge you speak of very well I also remember checking verizon website about every :30 mins at work counting the text messages between my H and the OW. The pain and agony. I never thought it would stop.
but it does.
Detaching works! it took me a very very long time to figure it out, but just make yourself do it. In time you will figure it out too. don't be hard on yourself when you are unable to detach. Read all you can on detaching - that helps! listen to the vetrans, they have been there, done that, and you can learn from their mistakes and their triumphs.
Hang in there, it is a long journey. but you can do it, I promise.
TAMF m:41 xh:41 T: 20 M: 15 D: 16 D: 14 Bomb dropped: 7/3/10 separated: 7/15/10 H moved in to new apt. with OW: 7/1/11 divorced: 8/26/12
I also remember checking verizon website about every :30 mins at work counting the text messages between my H and the OW. The pain and agony. I never thought it would stop.