I don't see her recognizing the pain her actions caused me or any asking of foriveness.
Don't get me wrong I am not one of those that needs the score leveled.
But if you don't offer it? If you don't see your part in causing your partner pain no matter how justifed you felt you were ...
Well that is just not me. That means I can expect even less in the future.
Not knocking her...
Also not volunteering to be knocked either.
Up to me. I dictate the terms under which I will willfully walk through the mine field again.
Grit - as someone whos MLCer says he is sorry all the time I can tell you that I really thinks she means it. This is a hard hard thing for her to admit. each communication that you have with her, she goes a little further in her appology. I saw this with my H. baby steps with them. My H is in full depression now. horrified by what he has done. But he is still so very broken as I am sure your w is.
I love your quote "up to me. I dictate the terms under which I will willfully walk through the mine field again"
boy is that me right now too!!!!!
TAMF m:41 xh:41 T: 20 M: 15 D: 16 D: 14 Bomb dropped: 7/3/10 separated: 7/15/10 H moved in to new apt. with OW: 7/1/11 divorced: 8/26/12
